Pain is something that as humans we innately avoid due to well; the discomfort of it. Ironically it is not just physical pain I am talking about this includes mental pain as well. We are programmed in society to not feel pain and find anyway we can to cope with it whether it is prescribed pills, drugs, food, alcohol, shopping or any other addictive type behaviour that we soothe ourselves with.
We view pain as a bad thing, as something we have to stay away from but the problem is we will feel pain at some point in life whether through self inflicted or external influence we will feel it and it will be hard, very hard. The choice we have is whether we find tools to heal from it or we use masks to cover it.
I look back over the years at some of the self induced situations I have put myself in that were hard, uncomfortable and painful through physical exertion. During those times I questioned my sanity and why I would do it but as with every difficult thing in life afterward I was grateful and proud that I pushed through the pain to the other side of accomplishment. Life can be easy but it can't always be easy and when you live on cruise control in the easy lane you will get in an accident eventually because life happens, situations out of your control happen and cruise can't counteract these instances that require quick thinking and perseverance.
Pain, I have felt pain deep pain, pain so painful you don't think you'll make another day living it, watching it and unfortunately you can't put a cast on it nor can you mask it. When those feeling come I let them flow whether running and crying at the same time or during mundane tasks such as washing dishesl if I feel it I let it out, to not is to deny who you are and what you are feeling at the time. I read a great saying the other day: How am I so lucky to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.
True. So true. It's better to feel pain than never feel at all. Imagine living a life with no love, no feelings, no joy but you never felt so you never had to feel sad saying goodbye to anything because you didn't ever feel. Sounds pretty bleak to me. Truly, I think we are a messed up society with attachments to the wrong happiness but are you living a life where when you have to say bye to someone it is painful or will they pass without much thought? I have been so lucky to feel pain from saying goodbye to two amazing parents that made it so painful to say goodbye it's indescribable, but on the flip side the joy they brought into my life is amazing. Those lessons they gave me and showed me are living on in my own children now through me.
Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Death has become the elephant in the room, I'm not sure if you have looked around but it is the ONLY thing as humans we have in common we will all leave Earth and there's only one way to go. Watching a movie the other day called Touching The Void I was moved not by the tenacity of the climber to reach camp with a broken leg but more by his deep desire to be near someone, anyone he could, because he did not want to die alone. His fear of dying alone spurred him to do unthinkable feats to find an area with human life before his final hour. Think about this; would you rather die being right and alone or would you rather die surrounded by people who love and support you because you have done the same for them throughout life?
In our society we value money and possessions above all yet we do little to cultivate our dreams and love in life (some do) if we don't dream and love what do we have? Honestly, ask yourself what you want, where do you want to go? Buying a new truck is great and those compliments you get for it or the rush of buying last a few months but I'm pretty sure on your deathbed it will be the furthest from your mind, what you may remember at that moment is those times you spent with family or experiences you had throughout your life instead. Don't get caught in the trap of stuff verses living. Being trapped in your stuff is suffocating whereas living life is freeing!
Working harder to make more money is the scapegoat we think we are obligated to have more and do more, the problem is the more you work, the more you spend and the cycle continues on and on. Really step back and evaluate what you need or think you need. What are you grateful for today? When I wake up tired, groggy and not wanting to get out of bed I look outside and see the sunrise and realize the world is alright just where it's at in that moment. More doesn't always equal better. More equals less quality of life sometimes.
I have had some amazing experiences already in my lifetime and I can't wait for more seeing, doing and living with my family it is something I treasure more than all the riches in the world combined.
Will you have regrets? Or will you have lived a life you made and chose?
What dreams are living or planning? Are you sharing love in your life; starting with yourself? Without love for ourselves we cannot share love with anyone else, you can only share a glass of water with someone when your well is full first!
I Live Life Now,